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You could say this world is more connected than it's ever been.
Friends, family, and strangers who live miles apart can communicate instantly thanks to social media and. In large metropolitan melting pots across the globe, thousands of people from different countries and cultures mingle and break bread. It's as if time and space are collapsing, bringing all sorts of people closer to one another — yet so many of us feel lonely and can't seem to shake it.
Researchers claim that the U. Such prolonged feelings of isolation can come with serious health problems, both mental and physical. Feelings of isolation are often associated with depression, anxiety, and suicidal thoughts. Doctors have also found that people who are lonely tend to have increased blood pressure, weaker immune systems, and more inflammation throughout the body. Turns out, connectedness not only makes our lives more interesting, it's vital for our own survival. So what should you do when you're feeling blue without anyone to lean on?
Here's what therapists, doctors, and researches say are some of the best strategies to cope with loneliness:. Telling other people you're lonely can feel scary, shameful, and self-defeating. But expressing that feeling can be the beginning of releasing it. Denying our loneliness only perpetuates it, so before we can recover, we have to be honest — at least with ourselves — about what we are experiencing. Sometimes when we are feeling lonely, we can't see what's right in front of us. When people expand their definitions of affection and love to include a wider range of behaviors, they often discover that they aren't as deprived as they originally thought.
Sometimes I listen to Eleanor Rigby [by the Beatles] to hammer that point home," says Megan Bruneautherapist and executive coach. Recognize that loneliness looks different for people at different times of their lives, and that there are those who have many relationships, but still feel like something is missing.
Ask yourself what loneliness looks like for you. However, if I'm feeling loneliness more frequently than usual, I get curious about the shift. Has something changed in my relationships leading me to feel more disconnected?
Have I been nurturing my current connections and creating opportunities for new ones that make me feel 'seen'? Am I intentionally or accidentally isolating [myself]? If you're frequently busy, running around with your to-do list, or feel stressed by all the meetings at work, it might be time to hit the brakes. So the practice [then] is just to relax and do what their body needs.
Perhaps that relaxing for you could mean listening to music, taking a bathor just sitting with nothing to do and nowhere to be. I take a few deep breaths, relax, and ask worry, fear, and loneliness to lift so I can just be with myself. She recommends that those who are new to meditation can try to sit for three minutes and focus on something they find pleasing — like the ocean or dolphins — or any simple things they are grateful for.
Being alone and strolling through nature can be meditativetoo. And recognize the kindness in others! Sometimes when you feel alone, you might feel like isolating yourself from the world, which only continues the cycle of loneliness. In that case, finding a group of friends to hang out with or dropping into a large social scene can feel like a lot.
So why not consider starting small? Oxytocin is the bonding hormone. It's what mothers have when they give birth. So oxytocin is important. If you are feeling a bit more extroverted, you might even try starting conversations. Research tells us that even weak bonds strengthen our immunity and well-being. Another way to create new, meaningful relationships can be going into your immediate community to volunteer.
Community organizations, religious groups, and social groups around shared interest provide wonderful ways to connect with others. You won't feel "on the spot" to put yourself out there and make new connections if you're already aligned on getting something done. Simply getting out of the house and doing something selfless on its own is "one of the best ways" to battle feelings of isolation, Wolever says, even if you don't walk away with a new friend immediately.
You shouldn't have too much trouble finding an organization that needs your help in your area — but if you're looking for somewhere to start, Wolever recommends MeetUpa social-driven community board that may clue you in to charity work in your area. Perhaps you are looking to develop more of those deep meaningful relationships. In that case, you might want to explore hobbies with other people to form bonds over common interests.
Find a group of people who are just as obsessed with Game of Thrones as you are. Or maybe try something completely new, like goat yoga. You can have fun with this. Lack of physical connection can be the cause of loneliness. When we were babies, our bodies were trained to respond to physical touch as a form of communication and connection with our caregivers — especially when "goo goo gaga" didn't quite cut it. So, even if you don't consider yourself a touchy-feely person, physical contact has always been at the center of feeling safe, secure, and cared for.
But know that you don't need a lover, a friend, or a massage therapist to give you a reassuring caress. Placing your hand over your heart could do it. Everyone, however, is different, Dr. Neff says. Some people prefer a hand on the stomach.
Others prefer holding their face. Some love hugging themselves. If you're by your lonesome, this could be a chance to figure out how to be your own buddy. One of Dr. Nobel's favorite strategies is expressive writing. Jotting down thoughts and feelings you recognize others may be experiencing has a similar result as, say, going to the movies. At the theater you share a room with a group of people — perhaps strangers — who are all witnessing the same journey with you.
Even if you don't talk to anyone, you and the entire audience are connected through shared experience, Dr. Nobel explains. Mentally, the same thing happens when you write, even if you never share it with a soul. Although, sharing could be a healthy way to find connection among others.
Recent research out of the Pew Center suggests that most people link loneliness to strife within their own families and social circles. If you're feeling a hole in your social life, why not fill it with a playful force that'll be available to you around the clock? Arpit Aggarwal, MDa psychiatrist within the University of Missouri Health Care system, suggests that seeking out a furry friend may help you find more satisfaction in your day to day life. If you can manage the responsibility, rescuing a new pet whether it be a dog, cat, or even a bird may help you feel more fulfilled in your day to day routine.
While the jury is still out on whether or not the rise of social media is driving loneliness and depression, it doesn't hurt to reevaluate the influence it has on your life. Are you using it to make meaningful connections? Are you spending too much time on it? Is it causing you to withdraw in unhelpful ways? That isn't actually true, of course. If Instagram and Facebook are dragging you down, it might be time for a temporary screen detox. Since loneliness can often be associated with other mental health disorders, including clinical anxiety and depression, there are many lifestyle changes you could make that may alleviate the severity of your symptoms.
Getting enough exercise during the week and establishing a healthy sleep routine is at the top of the list for some, but taking stock of how much you are drinking as well as any recreational drug use may also help you avoid feelings of isolation. Alcohol, like other drugs, can amplify feelings of psychological depression, and drinking to avoid feeling lonely can easily lead to addiction as you develop tolerance over time. While you don't have to totally abstain from alcohol, Dr.
Saltz says cutting back on how much you drink on a daily basis may actually lessen the intensity of your feelings of loneliness over a longer period of time. Understanding that you are experiencing feelings of loneliness is a step in the right direction — but can you actually act upon those feelings? Howard L. Forman, MDa New York City-based psychiatrist and psychotherapist, says that the motivation to actually try and feel more balanced among your peers may be a that you can cope in the first place.
There isn't a clear-cut path to feeling free of being lonely, but Dr. Forman says simply trying your hand at something new may help to break through to better times ahead. Simply trying new things when you really have no desire to do so, however, isn't going to alleviate the situation.Lonely looking for a good time
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