Casual Dating Whittemore

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Dating, romance, intimacy, relationships…All of these things can sound intimidating to anyone and even more so to someone living with IBD. There are the physical and emotional challenges we deal with every day to try to get to a positive place for ourselves. We get nervous before dates too, but instead of nervous butterflies, it feels like nervous knives wrenching your stomach.

Casual Dating Whittemore

Worrying about not having a bathroom nearby or not making it to the bathroom is commonly in the forefront of our minds. Sometimes, we wonder, where does that leave any room for the thought of romance? As humans, many of us like to be in control of who we choose to interact with and count on this control to extend how we present ourselves to a potential partner, both physically and emotionally. When some of that control is lost as we navigate life with IBD, dating and romance may not seem attractive pun intended.

Casual Dating Whittemore

There can be a lot of pressure from friends and family to get out there and try to meet someone Sometimes something great comes out of the blue, but I have to feel comfortable with myself and my body to allow myself to be open to another person getting to know me on a more intimate level. Right after my diagnosis at I had lost weight, but felt disconnected from my body and was in no way ready to date. I felt this pressure because meeting someone usually involves going out to eat or drink, and this requires more preparation for us than the average person.

Using food and drink as a backdrop for conversation and as a way to meet someone suddenly becomes another thing to worry about. A few days before a date, I try to have a few restaurants in mind that work for my needs but are usually well-liked by others as well.

Casual Dating Whittemore

Having options gives you power to have choices for yourself and also give your date some fun options! One time, I was even able to share about my IBD with a guy after we had spent hours talking.

Casual Dating Whittemore

We just connected really well, I was in a safe space and he genuinely wanted to know more. I would say that was a rare instance, but this helped educate someone about real issues of living with IBD and having a social life. An added plus is that my boyfriend works in the medical field and knew about my ulcerative colitis UC diagnosis prior to dating when we were friends.

He was respectful whenever he asked questions about how I was feeling or about how I was diagnosed and being treated. Having open communication lets me feel comfortable sharing how I feel. He also makes me feel beautiful and special inside and out, which is important to me since our bodies undergo lots of changes with IBD, from weight gain and loss to feelings of body disconnect and failure.

The complex pathophysiological way that IBD affects us can cause sexual dysfunction as well 1. All of these things can have an impact on our sexual health and you should never be discounted for not wanting or being ready for physical intimacy.

I usually just want to focus on getting out of my flare, resting and maybe getting a backscratch here and there from my boyfriend. Discuss with your partner any expectations, worries and what you know works for you in terms of physical intimacy. Happy and feeling so supported in my current relationship. Feeling ready and connecting with someone who is respectful of you as a person - not just a person with IBD - is so important. Your value is not diminished because you have a chronic illness.

Sure, it brings challenges, but we all deserve partners who care about, support us and cherish us, IBD and all.

Casual Dating Whittemore

When you do feel ready though, dating and healthy relationships takes time and work, but it can be a beautiful way to connect with someone else, share adventures, enjoy intimacy and even learn about yourself. About Us. Why We're Here. Community Space. First Name. Last Name. Address.

Casual Dating Whittemore

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