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Life as a working single mother is crazy-busy, and yet … it can be so very lonely. Anyone else feel this? How can it be that every day is packed full of chores, people and the vibrant chaos of our children, but we still feel isolated somehow?
Slightly adrift from the rest of the world. It is almost laughable that someone who can barely find a minute to herself during her waking hours, still craves more. I spend my time helping other single mums embrace independence, redefine their paths and be the best they can be, all whilst being brilliant single mums. According to Vocabulary. It is a feeling of sadness or even anxiety that occurs when you want company. That is exactly it! This not only describes loneliness, but it also validates why single mothers can struggle with loneliness, even when they are super busy. Ask yourself about the interactions you have throughout an average day.
Are they quality interactions that help you feel less alone in the world? Or are you simply communicating with those around you as a way of making it through the day? This article might resonate with you: Why single mums can feel like the loneliest people on earth. Negative feelings come and go. Understanding them is an integral part of managing our mental health on a daily basis. For example … I can be skipping along perfectly happy with my singledom, then I catch up with one of my favourite married couples yes, there are still a few remaining in my friend circle and will suddenly feel very lonely.
This will last as long as it takes me to drive home, hog the remote control and my entire queen bed … then the feeling will pass. All quite normal. Extended feelings of loneliness have a myriad of worrying outcomes, including health problems. In addition, loneliness has been found to raise levels of stress, impede sleep and, in turn, harm the body. Loneliness can also augment depression or anxiety.
Lack of connection and meaningful conversation makes your problems and negative thoughts spin around and around inside your head in a never-ending circle of self-doubt that can drive you mad. Is it any wonder this can lead to stress, insomnia, anxiety, even depression?
Question: If you are struggling with your mental health, could it be caused by the absence of meaningful connection and companionship? And allowing yourself minutes to get lost in the drama of Bridgerton or Offspring every evening does not constitute as a social life. What we desperately need and deserve is: Meaningful connection and conversation with people who get us and genuinely care for us otherwise known as non-work-related adult conversation The chance to support and guide those close to us not only our kids to feel a sense of value and self-worth A reason to smile with another adult, ideally giggle … better still, belly laugh The feeling of being supported by others, even if they are not physically present all the time.
And I believe a lot of single mothers feel the same. We have these gorgeous little people in our worlds. Our children. They are our greatest loves, our mini entertainers, our biggest time takers. We love them to the moon and back a million times. So why is this not enough? Yes, our children do provide us with connection and companionship in their own special childlike ways but NEVER assume that this should be enough for you.
In fact, the huge amount of time, energy and all-consuming love for our kids is often what breaks our ties with other people around us, thus exacerbating the problem. I have two beautiful daughters who I adore. If anything, my care for them was preventing me meeting those needs. There is no shame in admitting this. It is a reality. The sooner you accept it and work on filling your need bucket outside the realms of Kid World, the sooner you will feel better. For further reading on mum guilt see: The truth about mum guilt and how to kiss it goodbye.
Feeling lonely is one of the biggest challenges for single mothers. For this reason, we have heaps of resources on this website to help you manage stress and work your way around loneliness to a happier place. And I totally get it. Can you manage your time better? Can you streamline tasks?
You may find you have to be disciplined when you prioritise. So, instead of spending Tuesday night ironing, invite a friend over for a wine when the kids are in bed, or head to the movies with them. The less I see people, the less I feel like seeing them.
Can you relate? If so, you will know it is a vicious cycle. Feeling depressed can be a stress response and a that you need further support from a GP or counsellor. You can also call Lifeline or Beyond Blue. There is help out there. As well as this, try and get some momentum to your social life, however small. Other ideas include: Walking your dog — great for making small talk with strangers!
No worries. We live in the age of technology which leaves us no excuses not to connect with one another. Get tech savvy with your favourite video calling app and arrange chats, dates and even parties, all from your living room when the kids are asleep.
In addition, get engaged with social media and online social support groups to meet people. Some are especially for single mums and are area specific. For me, this is one of the most rewarding parts of starting Beanstalk cue: nice warm feeling inside. Of course, real human contact is best, but getting tech-social is a pretty close second.
Well, now is the time to discover her. Allow yourself time to discover who you are, what you enjoy, and think about the kind of people you would like to spend your precious time with. After all, until you are confident in who you are, how can you reach out and find healthy, authentic friendships? Check out these articles for further support: Finding the real you amid the craziness of being a single mum How to supercharge your self-esteem after divorce.
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How can I be so busy but still feel so lonely? Lucy Good Lucy is the Founder of Beanstalk Single Mums and sits at the centre of the think-tank of modern-day single motherhood. She is also the author of the popular "You've Got This" Single Mum eCourse, downloaded and loved by 's of single mums across the globe.
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